From dating to marriage, to dealing with relationship dynamics with extended family members. Relationships are an important aspect that can impact your mental health. Finding satisfaction in your relationships is vital to feeling positive, cared for and connected with others.

Strained relationships make it difficult to:

• focus at work

• feel positive about yourself

• trust other people or trust yourself around other people

• Avoid feelings of anxiety and/or  depression

• Avoid poor coping strategies like substance abuse or other numbing/avoidance strategies

• Avoid emotional/sexual affairs

• Want to work on the relationship before jumping ship 

You are tired of leaving things the way they are.

You keep attracting the wrong type of people in your dating

You keep finding the same unhealthy relationship patterns that leave you feeling “Less Than” or “unlovable” and feeling like something must be wrong with you because you can’t find your “happy ever after.” Either you date narcissistic type partners or you end up with a partner that is emotionally unavailable.

Communication Problems

The new-ness, euphoric phase of your relationship has begun to phase out and now you and your partner are arguing more frequently and your resentment is growing. You want to make this relationship work, but you are done feeling unheard, unvalidated, or gaslighted. You think it’s time to bring in a third party to help you both work past your communication struggles and find healthier ways in managing arguments.

Lack of Emotional Support

Maybe you feel unseen or neglected by your partner/spouse. So much has happened in your relationship that you just drifted apart. You feel like roommates or acquaintances now because the passion isn’t there anymore. The emotional intimacy is no longer there, and they no longer feel like the first person you would call to celebrate good news with nor the first person you would call to vent to. At some point, they stopped being “Your Person,” but you want to salvage your relationship while you still can.

Infidelity & Betrayal

Maybe you have experienced the trauma of infidelity and you can’t stop thinking about the betrayal, ruminating on real memories or unknown/imagined “worst parts” about your partner's indiscretions. You want to figure out if you want to make this relationship work and if you can move past the betrayal. Betrayal could be a physical or emotional affair or other types of betrayal like financial betrayal, pornography, gambling, or substance abuse. Maybe you have left a relationship after betrayal and now you can’t trust yourself to find a trustworthy partner, and you sure as hell struggle to trust the person you date, even if they haven’t given you a reason to doubt them.

Codependency, Avoiding Conflict and Setting Boundaries

You have avoided conflict for so long that you have begun to feel like a shell of a person. You have put your partner's needs before your own so much that you don’t even know what you want or need anymore or don’t know how to express what you need. You just know that you're feeling very unsatisfied in your relationship. You have sacrificed your career or relationships with other people to appease your partner. You feel lost about who you even are anymore, because this version of you is not who you used to be and not who you want to be anymore.

Narcissist

You are so over the gaslighting when your partner makes you believe that it’s YOU who is the problem.. like you are the crazy one in the relationship. They might call you names, make you feel like you are selfish or wrong for expressing your needs. They might guilt trip you into going along with their behaviors. They show little empathy for your feelings and expect you meet their needs above your own. You feel emotionally exhausted. You experience guilt and shame, and/or question your self-worth. You feel helpless and hopeless in your relationship, and are tired of feeling sad, confused, and alone. Maybe after you decided to leave a narcissist, you find you are still struggling to love yourself and feel worthy of a good relationship. You just want to unpack and heal from the years of trauma your endured in that relationship.

Parenthood

Parenting and Co-parenting can be such a struggle. You are doing your best to break the cycle from your childhood and you want to parent better, yet you notice yourself losing your temper and then feeling so much shame around it. Maybe you feel like you are emotionally distant from your children, feel guilt for being so busy and distracted all the time. You want to learn parenting strategies that you and/or your partner can use together to have a better family life.

Estranged Family & Childhood Trauma

The stress of dealing with unhealthy family dynamics sometimes leads you to become estranged with a family member, but you still struggle to feel guilty for taking such a drastic measure. When you tell other people about your toxic family member, they respond with “but that’s your mother/father/______” which leaves you second guessing your decision. You might have a parent/family member that creates alot of drama in your family, and you are tired of feeling like they are venting about you to everyone when they don’t have the facts. You can’t imagine cutting them out of your life completely, but you want to learn how to set better boundaries with them and heal from the insecurities and people pleasing habits you learned to survive your childhood.